March 24, 2012

How Not to Impress Me On A Date


I posted an outfit pic about my first How About We date and many of you wanted to know how it went. Pretty sure you can tell by the title of this post... not well. Online dating has been quite the adventure but it's provided good material for blogging (lol!). I don't want you to think I mean "impress" as in fancy cars, fancy restaurants, flashing hundred dollar bills. That quite frankly would put me off. I'm not being all high and mighty thinking I'm the ish but I do think I'm a catch and deserve a certain amount of respect. First dates are always about giving a good first impression. You don't want to be misleading but you should put your best foot forward. Show that you're a great person to hang out with and can hold an adult conversation. A simple request.... or so I thought. Now some of the following points MAY seem obvious but these were no no's he committed. I figured sharing was caring and perhaps some other gentlemen can learn from his mistakes.

With that in mind, here are some ways NOT to impress me (and I'm sure many women) on a first date:
  • Don't make me make the plans! If a guy asks you on a date, I find it customary that he make the plans. I like a man who says "Be at __ at ___ time." Not 30 emails going back and forth figuring out what to do. Speaking of emails...
  • Don't ask for my number if you're not going to use it. Yes, everyone has email on their cell phones but it's not that hard to pick up the phone!
  • Show up late. Is this not a given? If you're running late, then do text or call the girl to let her know. Preferably with enough notice and not while she's around the corner.
  • Discuss how you get wasted all the time with your co-workers. I don't think this impresses any girl at any age but at nearly 30 years old - grow up! 
  • Give me Mets trivia. I'm a Yankees fan first of all and secondly, try finding what common interests we have and expand on that. Not rattle off statistics for an hour.
  • Tell me how you want to eat at every Chick 'fil A on the East Coast. How about setting a better goal for yourself in life? And P.S. they're very anti-gay and I do not support their establishment so two strikes against you.
  • Not give me a compliment. HELLO! Isn't that the first rule? When first seeing the girl, give her a compliment! Thankfully I have all of you who told me how wonderful I looked *blushes*
  • Don't pet a junkies dog. I love dogs. I do NOT love dogs that probably have diseases so no I will not pet one, thank you very much.
  • Not offering me your coat while I'm obviously shivering like a chihuahua. Chivalry is apparently dead on the streets of Manhattan.
  • Don't end the night with "Yeah I have your number, email, Twitter..." I don't need to know all the forms of communication you can reach me at. It's creepy.
And that concludes my ranting. Pass this along to any guy who you think needs to learn some lessons in the world of dating - knowledge is power people!

What's the worst thing a guy (or girl) ever did on a first date with you?

20 comments:

  1. haha, omg! Don't pet a junkies dog. You got that right! Punctuality is SO important! :) Have a great weekend. xo

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    1. haha I'm glad you agree on that one... my jaw was almost to the floor like ARE YOU SERIOUS?!

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  2. How about showing up in a polo and jeans. I'm sorry not dressing to impress on a first date is a no no. I'm in heels and a dress and you look like you're going to a baseball game.

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    1. That's true... he was actually coming from work so he was in a suit while I was casual. It was just ice cream so I was going in heels and a dress. haha

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  3. My next adventure is online dating. Can not wait to read about all your adventures. oh, I hate when a guy says so what do you want to do. After a while it's like, I'll just stay home how about that! The whole drinking/ getting wasted thing ... uh no. I am not a smoker and when a guy smokes then, blows it in my face...uh yeah. I already have no intention on calling you but, now I want to slap you too.
    Agrees with Downtownchicagobarbie wholeheartedly.

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    1. haha good luck! Keep me posted :) I hate smokers... refuse to date one

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  4. lol I would not pet a possibly diseased dog either lmao!!!! Some guys just don't get it. Well at least you saw it first hand so you now don't have to waste any more time on him. Oh and thank you for the complement on my blog :) I make them!

    finding-the-beautiful-me.blogspot.com

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  5. haha, love the one about petting a junkie's dog! and also the last one...thanks for telling me at the end of our date how much you plan on stalking me on the internet! was this all from the same date?

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  6. LMAO the junkies dog!! wait...this was all from ONE date! O g o d l o r d. This guy....sounds...like...a....winner....

    http://fashionistanygirl.blogspot.com/

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    1. lmao yes all from ONE date... oh yes such a winner :p

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  7. HAHAHA. I love you even more now. I firmly believe that I could impress you on a date. Just in case it ever comes up.

    http://www.glamkittenslitterbox.com/
    Twitter: @GlamKitten88

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  8. Well he sounds like a total jerk and you deserve so much better:) Reading this really makes me appreciate being happily married:)

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    1. Aw thanks! haha yes it's a tough world out there for us singe gals :p

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  9. I have been in most of these situations with guys! So awful. The worst was when a guy bought up his long term girlfriend out of the blue, during a conversation, then told me not to worry as 'he didn't actually like her'. I was gaping in disbelief.
    Or once, some guy asked if I wanted to go somewhere more 'isolated'. Needless to say, I ran in the opposite direction!

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    1. Never bring up the ex!! Omg :x haha boys are crazay

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  10. This is so true! lol
    Especially about the planning, some guys just suck.

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  11. aww sucks for him and its good that he showed his true colors right off so you wasted as little time as possible.

    and seriously my heart goes out to women who are dating, i see things all the time that get the major side eye from me.

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