November 22, 2011

Book Review: "You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up" by Annabelle Gurwitch and Jeff Kahn

I just finished reading "You Say Tomato, I Say Shut Up." I wanted to buy this book after seeing Annabelle as a guest on the Bill Maher show where they discussed how marriage was failing in America. We have over a 50% divorce rate and there's some compelling information why. I personally don't believe in the whole "sanctity of marriage." I would only get married for the legal benefits such as tax breaks and being able to visit your loved one in the hospital. I'm not a fan of the whole notion of being someone's property. Signing a contract. Putting a ring on my finger. It was created by religion during a time when people were dying off and the whole notion "til death do us part" was not exactly what it is today. I don't think people are meant to be with the same person for 50+ years. And Anabelle and Jeff seem to agree with me.

It's a he said/ she said book where they each tell a story from their 13 year relationship from their perspective. Annabelle definitely reminds me of myself: very tactical view of relationships, can be cold sometimes, pessimist, a New Yorker if you will. Where as Jeff is a hopeless romantic and a comedy writer in LA. They've been together 13 years and it has been an interesting journey. They kind of wanted to squash the whole "fairytale ending" ideal most people have about marriage and present some harsh realities. 

Each chapter begins with sarcastic quotes about marriage from cultural icons and statistics about married people versus unmarried. Breaking news: unmarried people are happier! They also included an actual transcript from one of their marriage counseling sessions - hilarious! I enjoyed the deep insight of someone who was willing that their marriage wasn't perfect.

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  1. That sounds interesting. I'm also not big on marriage, though I am married of course! It's unusual for Americans not to be into marriage - so many of you get married SO young!

  2. Wow this sounds like a really interesting book! As someone who married young, and then got divorced several years later, I'll definitely have to pick it up!


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